MIND OF A SINNER

Who hasn’t experienced emotional pain on several levels throughout their lives? It is something that connects all human beings. We have all been hurt by the people we love the most. We have all been hurt by people we barely know. We have all hurt others whether knowingly or unbeknownst to ourselves. The most severe hurt comes from the ones we love the most.

Those who are so much a part of our lives are the ones who we never expect to hurt us, but they are the ones who carry the ammunition to cut deepest.

Families, friends, spouses, children, etc…. are the ones who we share our lives with, we become vulnerable to them. This also means though that we are the one who can hurt them the most.

I have experienced pain from everyone on this list of “close people” in my life. My family has pulled out the hand smack of rejection. My parents have fulfilled their ignoring of important signs of teenage angst. My friends have turned their backs and walked out on our bond. My EX girlfriendS using the swords of words to puncture the heart. Again, I ask, who hasn’t experienced emotional pain?

The true test of these relationships is whether or not they can withstand the attack of argument or disappointment. Some of my relationships with family and friends have ended and may never be rekindled. Some of the relationships are much stronger, such as my parents , my child is not old enough to hurt me yet. These are the people who I do not want to live without. The ones who are easier to forgive and move forward in a positive way. Others, such as friends and family, are not putting enough into the bank account of our relationship to keep me from closing the account altogether.

This is the philosophy which one can determine whether or not something is worth keeping or closing the door on once and for all. Is this person or situation putting something into the bank account that makes it worth keeping open? Or is this person or situation overdrawing constantly, always scrambling to make the overdraft fees on time?

In essence, clean out your bank of life. You are the bank manager. You can’t keep profits coming in to your life if you have to constantly be making up for late payments and overdrawn accounts. Only fill your life with people and situations who bring in more deposits. Most importantly, make sure you aren’t the one overdrawing your own or someone else’s account.

The Three Keys to Happiness
1. Something to Do.

How many times have we felt unhappy with life because we simply had too much idle time? I know it has happened in my own life. When I get bored, I get down, and I only snap out of it when I start to get busy again. The thing is, we have to recognize this pattern and stay busy to keep our mood elevated. Find a hobby. Volunteer your free time. Learn to cook. Go to the gym etc. There are endless possibilities for “something to do” if we take the time to look.


2. Something to Love. 

Friends and family are such an important element to our ultimate happiness. There were times I spent a number of lonely nights hundreds of miles away in a small room (you all know how London is). I was in foreign surroundings, working in a job I didn’t particularly like, in an industry I didn’t believe in (sales). The one source of inspiration to get through those nights was my family. Even though my situation has since improved, I still think of my daughter when I get down and can’t help but smile. If you are single, you may have a best friend that always knows just how to pick you up, or make you laugh when you want to cry. Pets can even be an incredible source of companionship, there to greet you at the end of a long day. I’ve had pets (Dogs) and marvel at their willingness to love us unconditionally.


3. Something to Hope For.
Everyone should have something to hope for. Something that drives them towards a goal. It’s been said that if you aim for nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Have something to aim for; a dream that you hold close and never let completely out of sight. When people lose hope they get complacent, and complacency often leads to a poor attitude. This self-perpetuating cycle of negativity can lead to serious depression, and ultimately harm cherished relationships. I know, I’ve been in a rut myself and I lost sight of the dreams I once held close. But all hope is never lost, you just may have to work a little harder temporarily to catch up and see those dreams around the next corner again.


4. Write it Down.

I have realized one thing since I started writing and it’s the way it calms you, if you for whatever reason feel down, angered, withdrawn, emotionally stressed, hated, whatever the case maybe get a pen and paper and pour out your heart I promise you, you would gradually feel the weight being lifted off your shoulder, you will start to feel this sudden calmness within you which eventually leads to some form of happiness.


“The only difference in a rut and a grave is six feet.” If you find yourself in a rut, stop digging. Start moving in the direction of your dreams and things will begin to improve. If your goal is debt freedom, stop charging to your credit cards and start paying all you can pay on outstanding debts. Do not be overwhelmed by the distance to the finish line. If your goal is to lose weight, do not focus on how far you are from your goal weight. Instead, take it one day, one meal, one bite, one workout at a time and begin to move in the direction of your dreams.

The bottom line is we are responsible for our own happiness. Government programs, kind words from your wife, husband, promises from elected officials, and pats on the back from bosses may offer temporary mood boosts, but ultimately happiness is a self-induced state of mind. Be responsible for your own happiness….

Hmmm…. So two days ago i stayed at home and watched a series of Tyler Perry movies. I must say his movies aint only interesting, funny etc, they tell stories that you and I can relate to. 

One that really got me is the one titled “For Coloured Girls”, i had my mouth wide open through out the whole movie. 

WOW, I must say as a young black man of African decent and one that has a daughter, we as men really ought to try harder. (just so u know this is my own opinion it may not be so with every man). I watched how every woman in that movie try hard and quite frankly didnt quite do anything to deserve the treatment that they got from the various men they were with other than being who the are “women”. 

I have said this times without number the roles have changed, the poles have shifted, women are indeed stronger beings than men. 

Lets drop our egos for a second. 

I was on twitter yesterday and i saw a tweet from one of the females that i am following she said and i quote “when a man gets hurt thats it, he becomes a douchebag forever” and i absolutely agree with her. 

men lets ask ourselves this one question how many females have we as individuals done greasy, how many have we hurt? i will answer that question truthfully and honestly i have lost count. I admire how women get hurt so bad they probably cry for a week or two or maybe even months but guess what they always find someone new and LOVE again…dayum kudos to u guys… 

now how many men can safely or honestly say “when my ex cheated on me i trusted the next girl i got with” answer is only a selected few.

The moral of the story is women are now stronger, women dont take shit anymore well majority of them, women are calling the shots now, its becoming a womans world now, think about it why would a man thats been married for 30 to 40 years risk that long union just cos he’s seen a girl that is young enough to be his daughter roll her waist at him… boy o boy may pussy not control you in Jesus name. 

i hear sayings like” behind every successful man is a strong woman” that says it all my interpretation is she bends him to her will whilst shes sucking his dick at night making him pledge his whole being to her and allowing her to bend him to his will. 

i have heard stories of men doing and buying things for females that he cant even bless his wife with need i say more….

MEN LETS RETHINK OUR STRATEGY THE SOONER WE COME TO REALIZE THAT THEY AS WOMEN REALLY RUN THIS WORLD THE WORLD,  THE BETTER FOR US…

Peace out.

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